Day 18 Life Hack

A wonderful nudge from an amazing human.

Today’s Nudge: Share a Life Hack.

One of the single greatest changes I've ever made in my life is to meditate daily. When I make the effort to get up earlier, light a candle, smudge, set an intention and meditate, it makes all the difference in how I experience my day. Some days I sit for only 5 minutes, but even that small step reaps huge rewards.

For many years, I was over stressed, over committed, angry, and rushed everywhere I went. My nerves were shot and I spent the day being reactive and not so much fun to be around. Thanks to some amazing friends and coaches, I was introduced to the idea that meditating didn't have to mean sitting on a pillow in complete silence, focusing on my breath. Thanks now, to the Insight Timer app (not an affiliate, just a fan), meditation is something fun that I look forward to every morning. I can choose to listen to guided meditations for any type of focus, music, chanting etc. 

As part of my meditation practice, I also pull cards from any number of my oracle decks. Listening to the music, asking for guidance for my day, and pulling a variety of cards, not necessarily in a specific spread, is extremely helpful to me. Themes often come through and give me an area to consciously focus on for my day. With this practice, I'm much more centered, grounded, and creating my experiencing rather than reacting to it. For someone who is an INFJ, empath, HSP, this is key to a having a day of flow rather than being battered about by all of the energies surrounding me. If you don't have a regular meditation practice, I highly recommend giving it a try. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Home screen of my Insight Timer app

Day 8 Joy

I love the timing of today's prompt!

Today’s Nudge: What do you do to foster joy? What’s your version of ‘flinging glitter in the trenches?” Thanks Effy!

The notion of flinging glitter makes me smile. The first thing that comes to mind is CRYSTALS!

I love learning about, working with, sharing knowledge, and doing energy work with crystals. These natural allies are here to help us and I love sharing that with others.

The second thing is connecting with, and truly listening to others. I believe I bring joy by the way I hold space for others. I am open, non-judgmental, and supportive of those around me. I am often entrusted with information that is shared with nobody else. I am a VAULT. 

The greatest part of joy I am currently working with is learning absolute self-care. I want to model for, and teach others that self-care is not selfish. It is a requirement for a healthy lifestyle.

Joy is having a full well with which to help others. Take care of yourself first and then you have plenty to give in a loving, generous manner. 

Day 7 - Dump

So if you've been following along, you will notice there is no Day 6 post from me....

What happened???

The collective energies and all that is going on in the world caught up with me yesterday. I had the day job to get through, I had a migraine, I was attempting to use my tools to the best of my ability. I just didn't have it in me to write a post.

The beauty in this experience is that I didn't beat myself up over it like I normally would. I exercised self-care and compassion instead. Talk about incredibly freeing! Normally I would've carried over a "should hangover" into today. Instead, I awoke feeling somewhat physically better and tons better spiritually and mentally.

So here's today's post from the Effy Blog Along:

TODAY’S NUDGE: Dump Your Mental & Emotional Purse all over the table that is your blog. Don’t sort it. Don’t apologize for any of it. Just take an inventory, in list form, and let the old tissues & twenty year old mints fall where they may.

 

I've already meditated, pulled oracle cards, and done a cord cutting this morning so this won't be so all over the place like it would've been otherwise. I'm super sensitive to energy so I've been limiting my time on Facebook and social media in general. I've been trying not to get sucked into all the messages of fear and gloom and instead focus on #usingmytools to send Reiki, love, and good vibes to Gaia. She's pissed and I don't blame her. This feels like such a pivotal time for us to make changes individually and globally. We can't keep going the way we have been. We ARE NOT separate. There are consequences to our actions.

I've been worried over friendships and relationships and the day job and just about everything. A theme of weariness was prevalent among my circles yesterday. I think we are all feeling these growing pains and trying to do the best we can. I fluctuate day to day on how much self-care and calm I have vs. Chicken Little.

It feels good right now to sleep a little extra, drink more water, listen to music, light candles, burn incense, reach out to friends, go swimming, meditate, read fluff and so that's exactly what I'm doing.

What do you need to do for yourself in order to continue showing up in this world full of uncertainty? I promise to fill my well so I may continue to hold space for others. What do you promise?

Day 5- Struggle

I am so grateful to Effy for creating this Blog Along. We're on Day 5 and it's getting a bit easier, and a bit harder at the same time.

TODAY'S NUDGE: What is something you struggle with? What battles are you fighting that most people know nothing about? What's something about you or your life that makes you feel weird, or different, or isolated?

I really struggle with attachment to outcome. I get an idea in my head of how something is supposed to be and then I really struggle if things don't go quite as expected. I like to make plans, have lists, stick to a schedule. While this helps me in my day job ( I work from home and really need to be organized), I feel it prevents me from really enjoying the spontaneous moments of life. 

I regularly practice being in the moment and going with the flow. I meditate, work with crystals, use Reiki and shamanic journeying, and practice yoga. Even with all of these tools, my ego likes to attach to that outcome. When I get very still, have faith, and get clear on what I want, without worrying about *how* it will arrive or look, miracles happen. I have witnessed this.

Here's to allowing more miracles! *clinks cup with you

Do you struggle with attaching to outcome? Why or why not? What tools do you use? I would love to hear from you.

Stress

Today's nudge from the awesome and inspiring Effy:

What really stresses you out, and how to do take care of yourself when you're in the midst of *waves at all that*. 

 

It's usually fairly apparent when I've been stressing.....you'll see me use the hashtag #useyourtools. I often write this as a reminder that I am well-equipped to deal with life's ups and downs. I am often guilty of overthinking and spinning myself out on stuff. The what ifs, the regrets, the self-doubt.......Pretty much any time I'm focused on the past or future, I spin. I *know* being in the present moment is where all the good stuff is, but hey, I'm a work in progress.

I'd say that is probably the best way I take care of myself. I get still and quiet, and allow my higher self to step in and remind me.......I'm a work in progress. I am perfectly human. We all are. We don't have to get it right all the time. Self-care and compassion are key. 

I also find it's easier to take care of myself when I make plans and put processes in place for the care to happen, especially when triggered. What this currently looks like for me is regularly scheduled deep tissue massages, acupuncture appointments, reading, daily meditation, working with crystals, oracle decks, swimming, and quality down time with my beloved cat, Quito. The single most important self-care practice I have in place right now is an accountability partner with whom I use the Voxer app daily. We hold space for each other, do not judge, witness, and call bullshit for each other. I highly recommend this practice!! Without her support, I don't know how I would've done these last few months. 

Day 3

Today's prompt on the Effy Blog Along Train:

 Write about something you used to believe that you no longer believe and how that shift in belief has changed things for you. 

I used to believe that spirituality was exclusively tied to an organized religion. It was the only framework I knew. I was raised Catholic, Spanish Catholic to be precise. There's not a lot of wiggle room in that framework for all of the beautiful things I now believe.

Many of my daily practices now, and my life's work, would be labeled witchcraft, satanic, or any other number of of "negative" labels. (This is based solely on my family of origin, not saying all Catholics are like this).

While I struggle with the flood of information available on the web, I am also grateful that is has given me the opportunity to meet so many great people, with views that were different from mine. It has allowed me to become a crystal healer, a reiki and shamanic practitioner, and to truly understand that it is perfectly acceptable to be a "spiritual mutt". 

The beauty of being a spiritual mutt is that I now take all of the information and practices that resonate with me and for me, and I leave the rest. It doesn't mean I never challenge myself to have discussions around topics I don't believe or agree with, just being open to those discussions, take the information in, and leave it if it doesn't make sense for me. 

As an INFJ, these types of deep discussions make me swoon. I despise small talk and will usually be found tucked in to a corner with one or two others discussing deeper, more taboo subjects when in larger gatherings. I love learning from others and hearing about their experiences, beliefs, struggles, and accomplishments.

I would love to hear about any beliefs that have changed for you over time.

Day 2 A Day Late

If you've been following along on the interwebs, you'll know Effy has inspired a fine group of folks to blog along for the month of September. I'm putting this out there for all the world to see.......I'm already behind, posting for day 2 on what is technically day 3. It has always been challenging to me to stay consistent with blogging.

This ties in to today's nudge: What do you really want?

I want to continue on this journey to step out of self-imposed fears and limitations. I want to point and laugh at my smallness and shine my light, stepping into bigness. I'm working through tons of programming around not being seen or heard.......it's just not what we're supposed to do and it especially isn't safe to do so......lots to unpack there, right?

In the coming days I'll be sharing more around what tools I am using on this journey. I would love to hear whether you struggle with this too or not? What tools do you use?

 

Here We Go

I can't believe it's September already! I'm relaunching my website on a new platform as a part of a Blog Along with someone I admire greatly.  

The thing I admire most about her is what I am going to try to do differently this time around. I am an INFJ . I am usually quiet, shy, and tend not to trust easily. Being vulnerable does not come easy to me. In Effy's world, she shares.......and I mean she SHARES, ups, downs, ins, and outs, and I LOVE it!  Her voice resonates with me. I do not consider myself an artist per se, but her approach to life inspires me.

I decided to join her Blog Along as a way of stepping outside my comfort zone. This has been a repeated theme in my life for the last 6 months. All of the good stuff can be found outside my comfort zone. I KNOW this. Now I'm working on taking the steps with faith and not worrying about outcome. Take a look at her site and join us for the month of September.

Leslie